Death is, sadly, a part of life. We have all lost someone we have loved and we will all one day depart this life.  The Christian hope is in the resurrection bought for all believers by the death and rising to life of Jesus.

At St Thomas' we would be honoured to walk alongside you in this difficult time and pray for you.  Funeral services at St Thomas' are possible for anyone with a connection to the Church or village. However all funerals must be organised through one of our many dedicated and professional local Funeral Directors who will make contact with St Tom's on your behalf.

The Churchyard at St Thomas' is now full for all new burials having been extended twice in previous centuries. However the civil parish runs Fair Oak cemetery which is just up Botley Road towards Horton Heath. Your Funeral Director can talk you through arranging a burial in Fair Oak Cemetery, the minister who takes the funeral at Church can preside over the burial after the service.

All other enquiries about Fair Oak Cemetery must be made through Fair Oak Parish Council who administer the area.

Cremation and burial of ashes
Cremation services can be taken by the vicar either with a service in Church prior to or as a memorial after a service at the crematorium. Or with a service solely at the crematorium. Please discuss these options with your funeral director

The ‘cremated remains area’ at St Thomas' Church is also now full, but cremated remains can be interred at another cemetery or garden of rest either with a short service or simply with a prayer and a blessing. Please discuss this with the Funeral Director who arranged the funeral.

We regret that the scattering of ashes in the Churchyard is prohibited by Church of England canon law and cannot take place in the graveyard. 

Memorial Stones
There are strict rules governing the placing of memorial stones on graves and in the cremated remains area of the Churchyard. All stones and memorials must meet the Diocesan Chancellor’s strict guidelines and have received permission given on the correct form by the vicar of St Thomas' and administered through an authorised Stone Mason.  Unfortunately unauthorised stones or memorials may have to be removed as required by the Chancellor. St Thomas' Church, the PCC and vicar have no authority to alter these regulations and are required to act according to the Chancellor’s instructions.

Jesus said to her, "I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in me will live, even though he dies; and whoever lives and believes in me will never die. Do you believe this?"
John 11:25-26